Saturday, November 15, 2008

Real Vs. Fake

It's been a while, but I don't like writing publicly without carefully gathering my thoughts. What I'm about to talk about is a principle that we've been discussing since I was in middle school. The issue of fakeness. Back then we called it "2-faced." Speaking badly about a person behind their back then acting like everything was fine and dandy when you are in their face. Therefore creating 2 faces. Now that I'm in my adulthood, I never thought I would still be dealing with this.

I cringed everyday at work from being a fly on the wall and listening to all the fakeness that surrounded me. Girls did all but declare war against each other but then smiled, spoke as if they were the best of friends, and even went as far as to offer to share cheesecake. All I'm saying is, if you don't like a person, why are you offering them expensive chocolate cheesecake?

Fakeness got me fired.

One woman who is over a decade older than me decide to rudely confront me while on the floor but when I went to clear up whatever drama she had going on and was accusing me of, she wouln't own up to hers. That's not being a woman. That's not being real about yours. Passing yourself off as a woman who is strong enough to accuse but can't handle it when it comes back to you is superficial and weak. I pity her not just because she's weak, but also because she's putting up a front. Her eloquence is often mistaken for intelligence. I haven't been in the habit of putting people on blast in a blog for years now, but I'm going to make an exception just to demonstrate to all of you what fakeness is. Her are the stats:
  • 34 years of age
  • Feels that earning an associates degree from a community college in Buisness Management will get her somewhere
  • No Kids
  • Makes a little over $10.50/hr
  • Can't hold a job and was fired from a recent job after complaints of her lack of leadership in her position
  • Is eloquent, but it is a well known fact, she doesn't know a damn thang
  • Will speak badly about people (even management), but won't own up to it when it gets back to the person
  • Actually got in her feelings about what she THOUGHT a person 12 years younger than her had to say about her. (just for some perspective, that's like me caring about what a 10 yr old has to say...)
Again, I'm not trying to put this pitiful excuse of a woman on blast. Her stats do that for me. I'm just trying to illustrate a point. Being fake may get you somewhere temporarily (i.e. her recent promotion), but it's only temporary. Soon your world will crumble around you. The real always land on their feet. Less than 3 hours after I was escorted out of the building, I landed an interview with another company paying significantly higher than my last position.

Real recognizes Real
Real spots Fake
Fake doesn't see Real

"How Can I Appear Real Through Fake Eyes"
-Paul Washington

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